TEG-BlueRepair and accountability
How people acknowledge harm, act on their values and follow through after an apology.
Open area: Repair and accountabilityFind a place to start.
Choose the area closest to what you want to understand. Each one brings together tools for exploring that part of your experience or someone else’s behaviour.
You do not need to learn a framework or know the right words before you begin.
Start with the part of the situation that feels hardest to read.
Boundaries, harm, and control
How people set limits, use authority and respond when someone disagrees or says no.
Open area: Boundaries, harm, and controlPeople-pleasing and self-confidence
Consider how you express your needs, or how someone responds to disagreement, mistakes and other people’s achievements.
Open area: People-pleasing and self-confidenceEmotions and relationships
How people respond to feelings, offer support and handle conflict.
Open area: Emotions and relationshipsBring one real situation. Let the tool slow it down.
You can read a tool without completing it. You can also revisit the question later when there is more information.
Start with one real situation.
Choose something that happened, not a label for the person or relationship.
Choose the question, not the category.
Decide whether you are reflecting on your experience, observing repeated behavior, or consulting a general pattern.
Look across time and afterward.
Compare more than one moment and notice what changes after the conversation, limit, apology, or conflict.
Clarity comes from keeping a few things separate.
Each tool gives one question a visible shape. It does not decide what happened for you; it helps you see what information is present, repeated, mixed, or still missing.
Name the moment
Keep the event, your reaction, and the meaning you gave it separate enough to examine.
Compare what repeats
Look across more than one exchange instead of turning one difficult moment into a verdict.
Look at what happens next
Notice whether listening, choice, responsibility, and behavior change remain possible afterward.
Keep uncertainty visible
Mixed or missing information can stay unclear. A useful tool does not need to force a conclusion.
The format changes with the question.
Some questions need comparison. Others need reflection, repeated evidence, or a reference you can open without answering anything.
Compare three observable responses
Read the same everyday situation across three different ways a person might respond.
See an example: Do They Take Responsibility When They Apologise?Reflect between two close experiences
Place clues between two experiences that can look similar. The middle can remain mixed or uncertain.
See an example: Am I People-Pleasing?Gather evidence by area
Mark Yes, Sometimes, or No across repeated situations, and leave what you do not know unanswered.
See an example: Signs of Emotional MaturityConsult a four-level pattern map
Open each level to see how one behavior changes as pressure rises. No personal score is produced.
See an example: Accountability Gradient ScaleUseful for clarity. Not a verdict about a person.
The tools do not diagnose, prove motive, or decide what you must do. They help you name observable behavior, your own experience, and what changes over time.
A few things to know before you begin
The library is designed to be useful without requiring you to learn a framework first.
What is TEG-Blue?
TEG-Blue is a free library of practical tools for looking at real emotional situations. The tools help keep events, reactions, repeated behavior, and what happens afterward clear enough to examine.
How many tools and formats are there?
The public library currently has 17 tools in four formats: three-column comparisons, two-pole reflection sliders, signal checklists, and gradient pattern references.
What subjects do the tools cover?
The library is organised into four areas: repair and accountability; boundaries, harm, and control; self-trust and reactions; and responses during conflict.
How should I use a tool result?
Treat it as a way to organise what you noticed, not as a diagnosis or verdict. Compare more than one moment, keep unknown information open, and look at what changes afterward.