THE ENTITLEMENT
GRADIENT SCALE
Does Saying "No" Feel Safe?
This scale helps you notice entitlement as a pattern, not a personality trait.
Having needs is human. How those needs interact with others' boundaries reveals the pattern. This scale helps you notice whether autonomy is respected—or pressured.
This is not a test, a diagnosis, or a judgment.
It is a way to orient toward safety, autonomy, and mutual respect.
Healthy Self-Worth
When there is mutual respect around needs and boundaries. Needs are expressed honestly, without pressure or punishment. Autonomy is preserved.
The Four Levels
Reflective Assessment
Interactive ToolGo slowly. Notice whether your autonomy feels respected or pressured.
Choose how you want to use this assessment
Before You Go
Your needs matter—and so do your limits.
Mutual respect creates room for both.
Love does not require submission.
Expressing needs can feel harder when your nervous system processes rejection intensely. Having strong needs or struggling with flexibility doesn't make you entitled. Context matters—give yourself room to explore these patterns with compassion.