EMOTIONAL TOOLS

RED FLAGS TEST

Noticing Early Signs of Emotional Risk

This tool helps you notice early signs of emotional risk — often before harm is obvious.

Red flags are not accusations. They are signals.

This is not a test, a diagnosis, or a judgment. It is a way to orient toward clarity, protection, and self-trust.

How to Use This Tool

  • Read each statement slowly
  • Select it if the pattern feels familiar
  • Leave it unselected if you're unsure

This tool is about orientation, not alarm.

You don't need to prove anything to yourself. You only need to notice what's true.

Red Flags — Selection List

Select the patterns that feel familiar in this relationship

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🧠 Neurodivergent Note

If you've been told you're "too sensitive" or "overreacting," you may have learned to dismiss your own signals.

Red flags may feel:

  • Like overreaction (they're not)
  • Hard to trust (because you've been gaslit)
  • Confusing (because the patterns were normalized)

Also: Some red flag signals may be harder to detect if you process social cues differently. This doesn't mean you're missing something obvious — it means these patterns are designed to be subtle.

Trust your body's response over time, not just your interpretation in the moment.

You don't need proof to protect yourself.
You don't need to be certain to slow down.

Noticing is not accusation.
It's self-respect.

This tool is for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It does not provide medical, psychological, or legal advice, and is not a substitute for professional care.