EMOTIONAL TOOLS

GREEN FLAGS TEST

Recognizing What Emotional Safety Actually Looks Like

This tool helps you notice what emotional safety actually looks like in lived experience.

It is not a checklist for perfection. It is not about convincing yourself that something is safe.

This is not a test, a diagnosis, or a judgment. It is a way to orient toward clarity, safety, and self-trust.

How to Use This Tool

  • Read each statement slowly
  • Select it only if it feels true
  • Leave it unselected if you're unsure

Clarity comes from what's present, not from forcing conclusions.

This tool is about recognition, not counting. A few solid green flags may matter more than many uncertain ones.

Green Flags — Selection List

Select the statements that feel true in this relationship

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🧠 Neurodivergent Note

If you've experienced chronic invalidation or inconsistency, you may have learned to distrust your own experience of safety.

Green flags may feel:

  • Unfamiliar (even uncomfortable)
  • "Too good to be true"
  • Hard to trust

This doesn't mean the safety isn't real. It may mean your nervous system is still calibrating.

Also: Safety signals may look different in neurodivergent relationships. What matters is whether the patterns create genuine ease and trust over time — not whether they match a neurotypical template.

Safety doesn't always feel calm at first.
Sometimes it feels strange — because it's new.

Trust what your body learns over time, not just what your mind decides in a moment.

This tool is for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It does not provide medical, psychological, or legal advice, and is not a substitute for professional care.