Regulated vs Dysregulated

Where is your compass pointing right now?

Your nervous system is always orienting — toward safety or toward threat.
This tool helps you see where your compass is pointing right now.

Regulated

Your nervous system feels safe enough to be open, flexible, and present. Connection is possible.

I feel safe enough to be curious.

Dysregulated

Your nervous system is organized around threat. Safety comes from control, not connection.

Safety only comes when I have power over the situation.

Move each slider to where you recognize the pattern — for yourself or someone you're reflecting on.

1

Safety

Regulated

I feel safe enough to be open. Connection feels possible.

Dysregulated

Safety only comes when I have power over the situation.

2

Unexpected Events

Regulated

Curiosity. I'm open to seeing what happens.

Dysregulated

Resistance. This shouldn't happen. Someone needs to fix it.

3

Body Awareness

Regulated

Present and comfortable. I can feel myself here.

Dysregulated

My body is a tool. I use it, but I don't really feel it.

4

Close Relationships

Regulated

Connected. We can be real with each other.

Dysregulated

About power. Who's in charge, who owes what.

5

When Things Go Wrong

Regulated

I can take responsibility. Repair feels possible.

Dysregulated

Someone else caused this. I need to protect my position.

6

Others' Emotions

Regulated

I can hold space for them without losing myself.

Dysregulated

Their feelings are a threat to my stability.

7

Vulnerability

Regulated

I can show what I'm feeling, even when it's hard.

Dysregulated

Showing weakness is dangerous. I can't afford it.

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