EMOTIONAL TOOLS
THE EMPATHY
GRADIENT SCALE
Does Their Empathy Leave You Feeling Clear—Or Confused?
This scale helps you notice empathy as a pattern, not a personality trait.
Empathy can heal or harm depending on how it's used. It exists on a gradient — from genuine care to strategic manipulation.
This is not a test, a diagnosis, or a judgment.
It is a way to orient toward safety, clarity, and emotional truth.
Connect
Protect
Control
Domination
Level 1: Genuine Empathy
When empathy is felt, shared, and grounded in care. Your emotions are met with curiosity and respect, without pressure to change or perform.
The Four Levels
Interactive Tool
Reflective Assessment
10 questions · Go slowly