EMOTIONAL TOOLS

EMOTIONAL MATURITY
SIGNALS

A TEG-Blue Orientation Tool

This tool helps you notice emotional maturity as a pattern, not a trait.

It's designed for moments when something feels off but you can't name it, when you're unsure whether growth is actually happening, or when you want clarity without judgment.

This is not a diagnosis. It's not about being good or bad.
It's a way to orient toward safety, accountability, and capacity to grow.

Choose how you want to use this tool

Reflecting on someone else: Answer based on observable behavior, not explanations. Focus on what happens after conflict, not what is promised.

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Self-Awareness

How the person relates to themselves

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Can acknowledge their own limitations without defensiveness or collapse.

Notices patterns in behavior over time, not just isolated moments.

Doesn't need to be right in order to feel okay.

Can reflect on their role in conflict without shifting blame.

Shows curiosity about themselves, not only about others.

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Use of Emotional Insight

What is done with emotional awareness

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Uses empathy to understand, not to guilt or steer outcomes.

Emotional language leads to clarity, not confusion.

Respects boundaries even with high emotional awareness.

Doesn't use vulnerability or insight to gain leverage.

Emotional intelligence reduces power imbalance rather than reinforcing it.

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Accountability & Growth

What happens after harm

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Acknowledges impact without being cornered.

Repair focuses on the other person's experience, not personal discomfort.

Apologies are followed by changed behavior.

Harm doesn't keep repeating without adjustment.

Conflict leads to learning, not rewriting history.

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Relational Impact

What it's like to be close

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Conversations lead to clarity, not lingering confusion.

There is no pressure to lower needs to keep peace.

Honesty feels possible without fear of retaliation or withdrawal.

Distance is respected when needed.

Noticing limits doesn't lead to guilt.

Pause Before Interpreting

Notice which sections felt solid, which felt mixed, which felt consistently absent.
One missing area doesn't define everything. Repeated absence is information.

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Grounding Reminder

Emotional maturity isn't perfection.
It's self-awareness, accountability, and the ability to grow after impact.

Clarity does not require confrontation.
Sometimes it simply tells you how much space is safe to take.

This tool is for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It does not provide medical, psychological, or legal advice, and is not a substitute for professional care.