EMOTIONAL TOOLS
Relational

THE COMMUNICATION
STYLE GRADIENT

Does This Communication Build Connection — Or Create Distance?

This scale helps you notice communication as a pattern, not a personality.

How we speak reveals how safe we feel. Communication exists on a gradient — from words that connect to words that control.

This is not a test, a diagnosis, or a judgment.
It is a way to orient toward safety, clarity, and relational truth.

Connect
Protect
Control
Domination
Level 1: Open Communication

Communication that creates safety. Words are used to understand, not to manage or control. There is space for honesty, silence, and repair. Listening happens without preparing a defense.

The Four Levels

Interactive Tool

Reflective Assessment

10 questions · Go slowly